“Mother Tongue” by Sara Nović
Sara Nović’s early years were steeped in music, Bible study, and a strong desire to fit in. But when she failed her school’s mandated hearing test, her worldview was thrown into chaos. Desperate not to be marked as different, she told no one, staying in the hearing world for as long as she could by brute force.
Eventually unable to ignore the fact that she was deaf, Nović sought out other deaf people and was welcomed into a tight knit community rooted in the beauty and joy of American Sign Language. Nović realized that rather than maintaining the facade of her old life or trying to straddle two worlds, she would need to cultivate an existence in the space between.
Now the mother of two young sons—one, biological and hearing, the other, adopted and deaf—Nović reflects on her life both before and after parenthood. She’s raising her children within the deaf world, offering them things her younger self needed, all the while knowing that as her children grow, their own paths will branch off from hers in ways she cannot fully predict or plan for.
Interwoven with Nović’s personal story is a remarkable portrait of America through reflections on some of its most complex histories: the rise of the Christian right, the thorny world of international adoption, and above all, the deaf and disabled communities’ stubborn survival in the face of persistent oppression.
Nović’s clear, bold voice is one readers will hold onto, learn from, argue with, and be inspired by, as she asks us to recognize difference as a source of opportunity rather than fear, as a chance to draw families and communities together, and to build something new.
Review
I really enjoyed this memoir and I liked that Sara made it clear what to expect from it. We weren’t going to get a full history of her life and some things were always going to be left unexplained. All of that made sense, however I did find one situation confusing because I wasn’t entirely sure who she was talking about – it was a little too vague. I thought it was interesting that Sara hid her hearing loss for as long as she could but it made sense given her other health issues that too priority.
I also like reading her thoughts on adoption and how she worked through various issues regarding the ethics of adopting a child from another country. I don’t think she fully answered all the questions she had but it’s clear she was thinking about the ramifications. I also liked the way the sections of the book also deal with deaf and disabled histories and how they impacted her life along with other events. She had a lot of things to work through growing up hearing and then becoming deaf later as well as her other health issues.
All in all I thought this was a good member that addressed a lot of different issues in a way that is accessible to anyone.
Book Details

- Author’s Website
- Sara Nović
- Publisher / Date
- Random House, May 2026
- Genre
- Memoir
- Page Count
- 272
- Date Completed
- June 25, 2026








